Be Ready for the Emotional, Relational, Sexual Consequences of Urinary Incontinence

Be Ready for the Emotional, Relational, Sexual Consequences of Urinary Incontinence
The loss of urinary control following prostate surgery involves more than learning how to live in diapers. Few men are given adequate warning or preparation regarding the emotional aspects of coping with urinary incontinence. Here are a few of the unpleasant and life-changing feelings I experienced during my three months of living in diapers: Embarrassment, by definition is an emotional state of intense discomfort with oneself, experienced when having a socially unacceptable act or condition witnessed by or revealed to others. I was embarrassed in the presence of other people. Knowing that I was wearing a diaper was enough to make me feel different. When it was necessary for me to change my diaper in a public restroom, I wouldn’t come out of the stall until the restroom was empty. I didn’t want anyone to see me holding or throwing away my urine-filled diaper. Shame is the painful feeling arising from the consciousness of something dishonorable, improper, ridiculous, etc., done by oneself or another. Leaking through my diaper in public places was one of the most painful and humiliating events I’ve experienced in my lifetime. For one month I refused to leave home, or see any friends. I isolated myself from the world. Regressed is the psychological sense of a return to an earlier stage of life. This isn’t a feeling, but a state of mind. I felt like a big baby in diapers. I looked at myself with contempt. The idea of being affectionate with my wife, engaging in sex, or acting in manly ways completely vanished. Disgusted is feeling extreme dislike or disapproval of something. I hated leaking urine all the time. I was like a spigot that wouldn’t turn off. I hated myself and I hated my life. The only place I felt comfortable was in the sho
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  1. Susan kovar says:

    My husband used to have symptoms like dribbling, painful urination, frequent urination, decreased force or urination and incontinence it made him to go to the urologist.. He was diagnosed with bph and the doc recommeneded him to quit drinking and smoking, also prescribed him a supplement called alpharise, its been a while already since he started with this treatment but it has been pretty good.

  2. Ronald Cohen says:

    I had the Virtue Sling surgery. Totally fixed my dripping. 100% happy.

    That’s great news! Hope this helps others who have not regained urinary control.

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