To Cope with Cancer, a Journey Back Can Help You Move Forward

To Cope with Cancer, a Journey Back Can Help You Move Forward
Living & Loving with Prostate Cancer
Sometimes going backward is the path forward. After a prostatectomy, most men live with urinary incontinence. After regaining urinary control, I still leaked if I had to bend, sneeze, laugh, cough or lift anything heavy. I'll never forget how happy I was when I graduated from diapers to pads. At the time, I believed I'd easily adjust to using a single pad for the entire day. It wasn't the first or last time I've said things to myself that turned out to be wrong. With the benefit of hindsight, I never believed I'd be living with a pad for the rest of my life. I thought pads were one more temporary phase leading me toward regaining total control and a pad-free life. I spent 18 months living with pads, and I experienced my share of discouraging days. The first day I ventured to work without a pad was a memorable one. I went to the bathroom before leaving the house, as I didn't want anything to go wrong during my five-minute commute to work. I made it to the parking lot, opened my door, and stepped out of my car. Then I suddenly sneezed. Immediately I felt a surge of moisture in my underwear. I walked directly from the parking lot to the bathroom to inspect the damage. Sure enough, there was a wet spot in my underwear. I'd just received the resul
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Rick Redner received his master’s degree in social work from Michigan State University. He has spent many years working as a medical and psychiatric social worker He is the author of the award winning book I Left My Prostate in San Francisco-Where's Yours? His second book Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants won the Beverly Hills International Book Awards in Men's Health in 2016. Additionally, the book was a winner in the 2017 IAN Book of the Year Awards.

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  1. Lawrence Glickman says:

    Congratulations on a great attitude and I hope permanent good health. I know that your treatment decision was most likely well thought out and based on your tests. I would like to mention however that for early stage patients there are now better options than radical surgery. There is also a new blocking gel that protects against incontinence during radiation. There are many new focal (local) therapies that offer quick recovery and few side effects.

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