11 Harmful Things Cancer Survivors Hear

11 Harmful Things Cancer Survivors Hear
Coping with prostate cancer and the quality-of-life issues we face after treatment is difficult, to say the least. The comments we hear from our friends, family, and healthcare professionals have a positive or negative impact on the way we cope with cancer survivorship. Following are six distressful comments men with prostate cancer hear frequently: 1. My (father, uncle, cousin, etc.) had the exact same cancer and he (recovered or died). What happened to someone else is irrelevant to a cancer patient, at best. It's downright annoying. 2. You're lucky you have the "good cancer." It's as unlikely as hell freezing over as it is thinking anyone diagnosed with cancer feels lucky. 3. You look great! How someone looks bears little resemblance to how someone with cancer feels. 4. If you try this (insert miracle cure), I'm sure you'll be cured. Unless you have earned your medical degree, most folks coping with cancer are not interested in hearing about your thoughts on a "miracle cure." 5. If you had (lost weight or eaten less dairy, sugar, red meat, etc.), you wouldn't have cancer. Blaming the behavior of the person with cancer may ease your fears about developing cancer. It's not in the least bit helpful to someone who has cancer. 6. Double nerve-sparing surgery will preserve your erectile functioning. According to a study titled, "Sexual Dysfunction after Radical Prostatectomy," published in the journal Reviews in Urology, "The recovery of erectile function is agonizingly slow, requiring as long as 18 to 24 months. ... Patients again assume that bilateral nerve sparing is synonymous with preservation of potency, not realizing that few men experience potency that is as good postoperatively as it was preoperatively. ..." As men diagnosed w
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  1. Phillip Salvador says:

    Hi Rick,

    This is my second comment to you after reading now your posts on penile implants and diapers. I really appreciate your direct and informative advice on dealing with these unpleasant aspects of prostrate cancer treatment. I appreciate your shame-busting, ignorance-removing and dignity-promoting attitude, and your desire to pass it on to the rest of us.

    Phil Salvador

    Your comment made my day. Thank you!

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