Don’t Allow Prostate Cancer to Drive You and Your Partner Apart

Don’t Allow Prostate Cancer to Drive You and Your Partner Apart
Every month, I hear from men who tell me their marriages ended after they were diagnosed or treated for prostate cancer. After hearing the same story from dozens of men, I assumed a direct relationship existed between a prostate cancer diagnosis and divorce. I searched for an hour but couldn't find a study in the United States about the divorce rates among prostate cancer patients. Then I realized I was asking the wrong question. Too many variables exist. For example: Are divorce rates different among men who recover their erectile functioning versus those who don't? Are the divorce rates different among men who recover urinary control versus those who don't? Are the divorce rates different among men who use alcohol or drugs to self-medicate their depression versus those who don't? It's safe to say a prostate cancer diagnosis is stressful for any relationship because it's inevitable that unwanted changes will occur before, during, or after treatment. Based on my experiences, as well as the input I've received from hundreds of couples, few couples are prepared for the way a cancer diagnosis will affect their relationship. It is possible, and highly desirable, to perform a relational tune-up as you face the realities of living with prostate cancer. I'm the type of guy who (before any long trips) checks the tire pressure, fluid levels, and maintenance schedule of my car to minimize the chance of a breakdown. If someone suggested the need for a relational tune-up before my biopsy, I'm certain the idea would strike me as common sense advice. But I'm not sure in the midst of coping with all my fears and anxiety I could have pulled it off. In the middle of coping with the possibility of receiving a prostate cancer diagnosis and the stress ass
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One comment

  1. Pattie says:

    I feel any Cancer changes a relationship, Whether it is for the good or the bad, or for a closer relationship or be it a pulling apart of a relationship. One thing is for sure, everything is going to change. Pancreatic cancer survivor

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