An Aging Dog Helped Me Cope With Unwanted Change

An Aging Dog Helped Me Cope With Unwanted Change
My last year with Cheri, a 16-year-old black Labrador retriever, was a difficult year. Her deafness progressed to the point where she couldn’t hear or respond to my voice. I began screaming at her, hoping my volume would penetrate her level of deafness. I came to the realization that screaming at Cheri contained elements of

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Rick Redner received his master’s degree in social work from Michigan State University. He has spent many years working as a medical and psychiatric social worker He is the author of the award winning book I Left My Prostate in San Francisco-Where's Yours? His second book Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants won the Beverly Hills International Book Awards in Men's Health in 2016. Additionally, the book was a winner in the 2017 IAN Book of the Year Awards.


  1. Dennis says:

    On the same journey and just a few steps ahead of you. PCa teaches all of us a lot of life lessons. In some ways it is a gift … but a gift I would never wish to give anyone. Glad to chat with you anytime

  2. Nicola says:

    41 Years ago I was the fiancee of a man who was diagnosed with testicular cancer. I was 18, he was 23. At the time no-one paid much attention to the partner who suffered through the ordeal as well. There were no cancer support groups. I had just left home, been promoted to management secretary at the bank where I worked and then my life turned upside down. Until a few years ago I was someone who was known and seen as strong. I thought so myself too. Turns out that my ordeal at the time contributed to me being emotionally traumatised later in life (with permanent damage to the autonomic nervous system). At the time the surgeon said that he was not aware of any men who had survived that cancer. Operations (open look), radiation, chemo, it was an utter nightmare, but he lived (and we both changed indescribably much). Was I ever stuck in negativity because of the cancer exposure? I don’t think so! Sometimes these traumatic experiences live on inside of you – on a subliminal level – when your head is not even aware of it, until you break down (because they haunted you). I appreciate it that you mention the partner of the cancer sufferer. I take offense to the ‘stuck in negativity’ bit, because sometimes people simply are not aware of how they were affected by traumatic experiences until later (in life) (PTSS).

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