Redeeming Unwanted Change

Redeeming Unwanted Change
Living & Loving with Prostate Cancer In my younger days, driving an RV 600 miles in a day wasn't my favorite thing to do, but I had the energy and ability to do so. As my wife and I drove to Yellowstone National Park, we planned to arrive at our campground in three days. This meant we needed to drive approximately 350 miles a day. I expected this to be an easy task to accomplish. I'm not a fan of unwanted change. Whether those unwanted changes come naturally as a result of getting older or from my prostatectomy, I tend to react with frustration and anger. The first things I do are born from desperation and a futile attempt to get back what I've lost. On our first day, we had to drive 375 miles to our campsite. I became seriously fatigued before we drove 250 miles. With the help of three cups of coffee, we made it. Since I don't like drinking coffee, I purchased caffeine pills for day two. Day two was a 325–mile drive. I thought it would be easier for me. I was wrong. I was exhausted before we drove 200 miles. When it took two caffeine pills and coffee to get to the next campground, it became very clear to me something had permanently changed. I was no longer capable of driving 600 miles; in fact, 300 miles was a push. I have a family history of high blood pressure and strokes. I've ha
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Rick Redner received his master’s degree in social work from Michigan State University. He has spent many years working as a medical and psychiatric social worker He is the author of the award winning book I Left My Prostate in San Francisco-Where's Yours? His second book Everything You Never Wanted to Know About Erectile Dysfunction and Penile Implants won the Beverly Hills International Book Awards in Men's Health in 2016. Additionally, the book was a winner in the 2017 IAN Book of the Year Awards.

4 comments

  1. Richard Taylor says:

    I feel for you, but I’ve been really lucky these now over 14 years post surgery. I rarely leak and it’s usually due to pain meds or a few drinks. I wear black jeans which cover any wetness if I’m using pain medication or out enjoying friends with a few drinks. By taking off 60 pounds and my almost daily workout at the gym I’ve maintained my energy level. However, once I started Xtandi 3+ months ago I became more and more sluggish and my oncologist suggested Ritalin. So far that has given me back my zip. So far is short term, but looks promising. Something to maybe check out. Anyway, thanks for all you and your wife have done for all us guys in this prostate boat. Keep up the great work.

  2. Leo V. Smith says:

    I’m doing the watchful waiting routine. But the leakage is nothing compared to the neuropathy in my hands. I cannot find the zipper tab to pull down the zipper. I find doing my kegel exercises helps quite a bit. I also got accustomed to waiting for the post pee drip.

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